https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/is-there-really-no-one-out-there-for-us/
Interesting lessons from love:
https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/love-lessons/
“We might begin to summarise these lessons as follows:
— always speak up when you’re feeling undervalued
— complain with clarity and kindness, not despair or rage
— never try to persuade anyone to love you
— don’t set out to fix anyone’s childhood
— an absence of attraction is fateful
— but then attraction isn’t enough
— they should be like a best friend
— but this isn’t just a friendship
— resentment at a mother or father has a very long tail
— someone who hates therapy doesn’t just hate therapy; they are liable to hate introspection and dialogue too
— flee from anyone defensive
— never get together with someone because they are ‘right on paper’
— if something breaks down once, the chances of it ever working a second time are beyond minimal”